First, let's backtrack to some of the few points I've previously made about the topic:
Noteworthy Notes: In the 11th paragraph I again mention that I don't take compliments well despite how often they happen. This particular section goes into another aspect of how I respond in such circumstances.
Muse: A major reason, which I will get into further, for my hesitance to giving compliments is pointed out in this post.
1,000th Post!!!!!!: Oh the many times this post is referred to. The paragraph to check out is just after the picture of a girl's face with a septum piercing. It is only a minor mention of how a big deal compliments are, that they mean the world to me.
You Are Now Connected: The first line sums it all up, "I realized why I don't take compliments well. Because I am so much more used to giving them, not getting them."
"I Am Here to Chew Bubblegum and Kick Ass...And I'm All Out of Bubblegum.": The last line states that giving away compliments is precisely equivalent to giving away a part of my self.
Sweet Fruits: The last paragraph is significant in which I'm talking about my fanclub and how compliments have been increasing while my ability to take them is still waning.
Somnus: I talk about my Love Your Tree journal in the first paragraph. This relates to compliments because I am actually writing down significant compliments I have received on my physical self from people that stand out in my life. I have been actually meaning to get back to that. There's quite a few I want to add.
You're Beautiful: This brief post discusses my beauty, one that everyone perceives and comments on. This was posted in a time where many of my female friends had told me that I was beautiful in a small span of time. I go on to talk of my surprise and my feelings towards these women and their compliments.
Temptress: This speaks of the temptress nature I put off with a few tangents. But at one point I reveal that my giving away of anything, affection, compliments, kindness, etc. to someone takes quite some time for me. I take those kinds of things very slow because I place high value on them.
Memos of the Mind: In the paragraph after an image of a girl with dreadlocks I just explain some observations I've noticed on compliments towards my hair between when I had straight hair versus dreaded hair. [There's a lot of other cool stuff in the post too].
I Can't Take My Mind Off of You: This is brief but it serves to allow the reader to realize that I do in fact keep tabs on compliments I receive because they really are that important to me.
Make It Yours: This was my first, and necessary, post about my thought process surrounding compliments. A good last thought for you to keep in mind while I finally get into the rest of what I want to say here.
There is so much to this, I'm actually having a hard time deciding where to start.
I guess I will start with giving compliments amongst the sexes. It's far easier, for me, to give compliments to women than it is to men. I personally want nothing more than to make a woman to feel and to know what she's all about. And I'm not entirely shy to do it. This isn't strictly in a romantic sense by any means. I at least throw out one compliment every time I see my female friends. I think I'm unofficially known to do so. I want them to know, simple as that. I don't get stressed or anything about the repercussions of doing so.
For men, it's a whole different thing, generally speaking as well as in a unique circumstance I bring upon myself. In general, women giving men compliments could have deeper meanings, whether they are intended, wanted, or not. Men may interpret that as that the woman is interested in him, which may or may not being the case. And as we know, women think about that stuff so it may have been difficult for her to do that or not. There's a lot of varying causes and effects here. As for the specific thing or two that I do myself, it's all wrapped up in my complex mind. First, men, especially those I've met can take compliments the wrong way. There's two aspects of this I want to mention, and this all generally applies to cases in where I do like a guy. One way he can take is is that it may be too much. Maybe he doesn't want this to move anywhere or too fast [in the sense of possible clinglyness]. And I'm an intense person on top of that, so once I start, I won't stop unless I have a good reason to. Which all that ties into my all or nothing nature. The second part is the compliments themselves, the specific words used. Calling a man "adorable" may not always rub him the right way, or be taken in a way in which I would intend for it. Using that term is actually, on my side, highly complimentary. I definitely don't call everyone that, that's for sure. It is loaded with fondness and even respect. But I imagine it doesn't always get taken that way unless the person knows me well enough. That's just one example.
We can definitely conclude that there is a hell of a lot going on in my mind when it comes to compliments.
Another thing that just came to my mind today when I woke up was the way I respond to compliments. I know I've said that I don't take them well, but there's a major difference in the way that I take them from people I know versus strangers. With strangers, with typical ordinary compliments that I receive nearly on a daily basis, I fake my response. I always say thank you with a smile, although I'm still awkward, I try to extend it and make it seem like I do care. Which in a sense I do care, but it's still has an aspect of it that has gotten old. With strangers that have unique compliments, I obviously react differently and greatly appreciate it. As for compliments from my friends and lovers, I blush like hell. Sometimes I don't say anything at all. Or as someone likes to call, I have a "robotic response" which is a very flat toned "thank you". It's really bad, but I can't help it and it's further frustrating because I'm doing this when the compliments are actually incredibly meaningful to me. I'm just ridiculous in this whole thing. Regardless, they are being stored in that file of awesomeness in my mind.
There is always more to add to this topic, but for now I'm running out of time. As for now, I have you guys up to date on my realizations of such. Hopefully I haven't forgotten anything. ...Oh yes, there is something else, til the next time!
“A compliment is something like a kiss through a veil.” -Victor Hugo
“An acquaintance that begins with a compliment is sure to develop into a real friendship.” -Oscar Wilde
“Compliments cost nothing, yet many pay dear for them” -Thomas Fuller
“A compliment is verbal sunshine” -Robert Orben
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