Observations

Everyone in life is your teacher whether you want it or not.

A few months back while I was studying at my usual coffee shop I was observing the many groups of people in the shop. Across from me was a young married couple, in their 30's with a couple of young kids. I was watching them a bit too intently, although they may not have noticed. But it made me think that I desperately wanted to conduct a survey of parents with young kids [ranging around 1 year old to preadolescence]. I would want to ask them to honestly discuss their happiness or lack thereof in life. I don't entirely know if it's all in my head or I'm expecting it, but whenever I watch couples like that I really try to figure out what they're feeling, and often I sense some sort of unhappiness. Again, this doesn't apply to everyone, and I may be incorrect. But the point is, I'm very fascinated by them. Almost like they're creatures from another world, and I'm observing them in their own nature. Quite honestly, that's how I am with any type of couple. I've talked about that though, how fascinated I am by relationships. And the thing is, I really do wish I could go around asking these people such questions and that they would be real with me, with themselves, with their spouses. I have no intentions of causing a discord, but people really need to learn to talk to each other. It's frustrating to watch...and to feel when I'm around.

It's pretty surprising that I'm not a physicist. That stuff fascinates the hell out of me, and I think about the physics of my surroundings all the time. But then again, it's not surprising that I didn't take that path. I obviously have a marked preference for studying humans instead. Hence, the lovely anthropology. Just the last paragraph is immediate evidence for my everlasting obsession with people. Why? Why do I enjoy it so much?

Even my matching of moods happen when I watch T.V. and film because I get so tense when watching. That human capability is outstanding.

 I don't think preups should be such a big deal. I think realistically, with marriage, it's one of the smartest fucking things you could do. I recognize the stigma, the view that your spouse may not trust you, and that it sucks some of the romance out of marriage to some. I think people should get over that and realize that not everything lasts. I'm not saying every marriage is bound to end, but it is still a possibility and that's something, like anything, to be prepared for. Especially since, more often than not, divorces are pretty damn messy and emotional. Iffff I were ever to get married, I would most likely do that. But I'm not thinking too much into it because it's gonna take a hell of a lot for me to get married if at all.

I find it incredibly fascinating that the singer Selena and Brandon Lee died on the same day, March 31st. Precisely 2 weeks prior to an important event for each of them. For Selena, it was right before her 24th birthday. For Lee, it was his wedding. Obviously I'm the one obsessed with all the events surrounding Lee's life and death. But my long time best friend was a big fan of Selena when we were young. It's all interesting to me.

As previously mentioned, I watched a film on Netflix called Chloe. Here's some major spoilers, just so you know. The film involves a married couple, the wife believes her husband is cheating so she hires a prostitute, Chloe, to test out that hypothesis. The husband actually isn't cheating but Chloe makes it seem as he is. Eventually the wife gets sexual with Chloe, thus actually cheating on her husband, but "to get closer to him." She confesses everything to her husband and he forgives her. It made me wonder, if Chloe had been a man, would the husband have forgiven his wife just the same. Does her cheating with a woman make it easier? In some ways, I imagine people would answer with a yes. But all in all, I don't think that's really right.

I hate those 'loving memory' stickers people put on their vehicles. I dislike them for several reasons. First of all, it's widespread. You see them everywhere, hence lacking in total originality. I'm all for bumper stickers and the likes, but I love original ones. On top of that, it's kind of a showing off. I absolutely recognize the need to share and externalize some sort of major loss in some way...but it's quite tacky actually. Furthermore, it's depressing. Not only am I annoyed by them, but saddened. All at the same damn time.

Cops, more about them. I'm pretty sure I fall into that category of women [and men] that are particularly attracted to people of authority, annnd those in uniform. However, I will say that mine is much more subtle than those individuals that fall into that category. First there's the authority part, which I will not even try to analyze beyond this. Second, is the professionalism, whether it is the position/authority and/or the uniform itself. Third, uniforms are generally always flattering, and crisp and clean. I don't think I ever really gave a shit about uniforms before, and I may still not so much. But I think everything that was already present in my supposed attraction to cops found a tangible representation in the uniform. Or is it actually the other way around? Chicken or the egg?
There is one type of 'uniform' that I do like a lot although it doesn't define or dictate my attraction to an individual, it is suits and more specifically button up long sleeve shirts. Suits are professional, classy, clean, sharp, flattering, vivid, etc. But there is definitely something there about long sleeved button up shirts that drive me just a little crazy. I'm really unsure why. To further exemplify my attraction to such, I will bring you back to the old days when I worked at Savers Thrift store. My job there was to do what they called "ragging out," I went through the entire inventory and removed outdated products, and organize them and such. I mostly did this with clothing. One night I was  ragging out in the men's dress shirts. As I was unbuttoning a shirt off its hanger, I, well, jizzed my pants. Well, not really, but it did oddly turn me on. It didn't help that I had some crazy hormones in those days, not that they've changed at all.

Cherry Healey is amazing. Now, Dirty Jobs is one of my favorite shows. And now this is like a more domestic female version of that. And it's English! Cherry hosts a show which has a different title depending on what she does for that episode. I've personally watched "Cherry Goes Drinking," "Cherry Gets Married," "Cherry Has a Baby," and "Cherry Goes Dating." First of all, she's adorable and completely likable. Everyone she comes in contact with seems to be drawn to her and bring her into their personal lives so easily and quickly. It's amazing that she goes around and does this. She will be presenting a subject and then interview and participate with 7 different subjects/groups. Subjects usually vary in every age group also, so they really do a good job covering the spectrum of things. And, it's cultural, so how could I not love it?! After watching all those episodes on BBC with some friends one Sunday, I realized that all my thoughts in my head had an English accent. I'd really like to say more about the awesomeness of Cherry and this show, but you can do research and even find videos.

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